“We’re not trying to be something we aren’t; rather, we’re reconnecting with who we are.” ~Pema Chodron
In early 2022, I moved to Victoria, British Columbia to get closer to the mountains, old-growth forests, and ocean. I packed up my Toronto life into my small orange hatchback, and began my 5,000 KM (~3,100 miles) trek across Western Canada.
Changes, and differences, can remind us that we are alive.
My nervous system was on high alert for moose, cyclists, rock faces, cliff edges, and rumble strips in the dark. I threaded around the lakes of Northern Ontario, over the flat farmlands of Manitoba and Saskatchewan, dusted about the eastern Alberta desert badlands, and weaved through the majestic Canadian Rockies to finally reach the Pacific Ocean edges of British Columbia. Beautiful and daunting, this is Canada.
50 hours of driving can take its toll.
When I started, I felt excited and connected to my purpose: I was clear on my Why. My clarity faded as the fatigue set in. I didn’t have many friends in my new “home”, and I literally was moving out of my 20-year comfort zone, away from my safety cocoon of friends and family, and the familiar chaos of Toronto. Why was I doing this to myself? What did I just do?
Maybe you’ve had your own winding journey in 2022. The whiplash of feeling connected to, then disconnected from, yourself, your goals, and your relationships can be disorienting and disconcerting. That big change seemed like a good idea at the time, but now fatigue, or even burnout, has set in.
The road is long, with fuel stations far and few between.
Along my journey, I re-connected with old friends across Canada. They shared memories of when they knew the Alvin who was 7, 17, and 27 years old. Turning 37 this year, I was reminded how much I have evolved, and how much I haven’t changed. I’m a more composed, self-assured, and determined adult (most days), but I’m also still the same whimsical, playful procrastinator. I love helping leaders build empathy, but don’t always have enough left over for myself.
Long journeys and big changes, whether career or personal, can be daunting, tiring, and fraught with hazards. They challenge us to adapt and inadvertently disconnect us from who we are at our core.
Re-connecting to what (and who) is really important, it can be the recharge that you need to keep going and chip away at in the distance. Effective leaders make the time to get to know who they are – very few things are more energizing than getting to do what brings you fulfillment.
From our Leaders@Scale team to you and yours, we wish you a warm, meaningfully-connected time over these holidays!
- As you complete 2022: what does reconnecting look like for you?
- What would be possible, if you made time to reconnect with yourself, your vision, and your loved ones?
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Today’s edition of the L@S Newsletter was composed by Alvin Pilobello. Alvin is a professional coach, salsa dance instructor, and former water engineer. He has a passion for what makes the world go around: water, dance, and connection. He helps people make sense of the diversity within others and themselves to encourage connection and develop innovative, systems-based (vs. linear) approaches to working relationship challenges.